YOUR child is unique – everything about them is unique. They are unique even from YOU and their siblings. But in today’s environment – it is good to know what Social Intelligence is. And know how to live in this environment of Social Intelligence. Social intelligence is learned. Some children are more socially intelligent than […]
Child’s “Code to Live by”
YOU, the parent, have a Code to Live by. But, YOUR child needs that code because of the environment the child lives in today. In addition they need courage, and inspired, and empowered to use that Code every day in school and their community. In other words, how to protect themself from the negative influence […]
Words that will help your child
Growing up is difficult! Words that will help your child I remember reading M. Scott Peck, MD book for the first time: “The Road Less Traveled”. The first sentence in the book is “Life is Difficult”. In my own mind, I should have been told that when I was about 9 and then I think […]
Children and effects of TV
Since TV came into the market place there has been a discussion of just how much TV can a person watch and not be affected. Most recently in the last 10-20 years, there has been researched on how TV has affected children and their brain develops. Daphne Bavelier, a brain scientist, says the effects of […]
Things I wish I had known in Middle School
I am listing some items that I believe would have helped me in Middle School. These are just some of my ideas looking back over the years since I have been in Middle School but I hope that some of them can be helpful to you and YOUR child at this time in their life […]
How Do I Talk to My Child About Hurt Feelings?
Dealing With Hurt Feelings One of the hardest things about being a parent is helping your child with hurt feelings. It is the one thing that we never want them to encounter but everyone has their feelings hurt throughout their life. One of the most difficult things in life is seeing your child in pain. Whether it is […]
Consequences for Bad Behavior or Bad Choices
Bad choices and their consequences will be with you and your child for your lifetime. Every time YOU make a choice there will be a consequence, no matter what choice YOU make. Every choice carries a consequence. For better or worse, each choice is the unavoidable consequence. There are no exceptions. If you can accept that a […]
Power Tools for 21st Century.
Power Tools for 21st Century. YOUR child has to have tools to work in today’s society. The website hopes that you are learning what tools to use for you and your child. Since we are all unique we all need different tools that fit just us. The title of this post comes from one of […]
Childhood trauma – adult anxiety.
I get these images off the internet for free. But, this young man looks like he belongs with this post on trama. Maybe, he never had any childhood trauma but by his body language, it looks like he has the anxiety of some type. What went on in your childhood to cause you anxiety […]
Parent, keep private YOUR stuff!
Children have to have a childhood that is free from adult stuff. It comes early enough for a child sometimes. But, if you can possibly keep your child in childhood that is great. Why do you think that there have been so many great motivational speakers in the last 100 years for adults? Because […]
My child learning to manage their allowance?
Money, Math, and Decisions The child will have to have money to manage so when they are young they can get an allowance for chores or it can just be given out to them or some combination of the two. Whatever you decide, making sure your child has their own money is the first step toward […]
How Can I Spark Creativity Within My Child?
How Can I Spark Creativity Within My Child? Many people assume that creativity is an inborn talent that their kids either do or do not have; just as all children are not equally intelligent, all children are not equally creative. But, actively, creativity is more skill than inborn talent and its skill that parents can help […]
“Before the Fact” or “After the Fact” Parent?
It is easier to wait for problems instead of staying in front of them. But staying in front makes life’s stresses less for YOU the parent. And yes, it can be a lonely journey – but it is how your attitude is what makes the journey as much as what you want in life. Each […]
Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence.
Raising Children To Be Independent and Self-Reliant Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence. One of your most important goals as a parent is to raise children who become independent and self-reliant people. Certainly, in early development, your children count on you. As infants, they rely on you for nourishment, cleaning, and mobility. And your […]
Chores to Build a Work Ethic in My Child?
Chores to Build a Work Ethic in My Child? The one thing in life, no there are two things in life that are necessary and contentious: Working – at something Change – life is about change But, today we will talk about the Work portion: And how to build a work ethic: Even when you […]
Behavior – the good and the bad
Good behavior in school starts with good behavior at home. Having respect for others Being kind to one another There are many ways to have good behavior no matter where YOUR child is. Most important is the fact that YOUR child should: Be on time prepared responsible cooperative respectful What YOU […]
Anger a normal human emotion-in check
Anger – a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong Anger is a normal human emotion – keep it in check Let it go There are ways to be able to move beyond any anger: Forgiveness Never let anger consume YOU for more than 20 minutes Exercise Volunteer work I have used […]
Self-Defeating Thinking Habits.
Self-Defeating Thinking Habits. This is from a book by one of my favorite people. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, who passed several years ago but he was great to follow his thinking. He had been an orphan and he became this wonderful person who effected millions around the world. I do not have a TV but […]
When to listen to Others.
When to listen to Others. The answer and best answer is NEVER. Of course, there have been lots of research and a lot of people who try to get others into their web. What happens to a 13-year-old who starts drinking or taking drugs. Remember, that our brains are not developed until mid-twenties. […]
Being Proactive and Staying ahead of the curve
Should have, Could have, Would have. This is a statement that none of us want to say. Because, when we say it, it means we have regrets that we did not do something. Something that we could have possibly done. There are not always things we can do every moment. Sometimes things happen that make […]