Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence.

Raising Children To Be Independent and Self-Reliant

Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence. One of your most important goals as a parent is to raise children who become independent and self-reliant people. Certainly, in early development, your children count on you. As infants, they rely on you for nourishment, cleaning, and mobility. And your children grow, they become more independent in these basic areas of living but still depend on you for love, protection, guidance, and support. As your children reach adolescence and move toward adulthood, they become less reliant on you and gain greater independence in all aspects of their lives.

Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence.

Will YOUR children be prepared to go from dependence on YOU to be self-reliant? They need codes to live by-will they get the codes? And they will need a toolbox so that they have tools in their person to be prepared to be self-reliant. Your children need direction, values, a code to live by, role model on how to be self-reliant and independent so they will not be pressured by peer pressure, by video games, by television, my friends who do not have their best interest at heart. Help this child reach their potential, what they aspire to be in life, but to do this is a daily walk with the child.

The developmental levels your child goes through is not easy, but you can help to make it as easy as possible by being attentive on a daily basis. Not caught up in YOUR own world but be present in their world. Making sure they can make good decisions, making sure they make good choices, making sure they are prepared.

Be a Before-the-fact Parent and role model, do not be an After-the-fact parent where you find out your child is sexually active, or on drugs or alcohol, or not doing their school and are behind in the class-work.

There are contingent children and there are independent children.

The difference is:

Contingent Independent

Depend on other Belief they are competent

Others for their happiness Take care of themselves

Poor decision-makers Make good decision & choices

No limits to behavior Appropriate behavior all the time

You, the parent have a BIG responsibility providing your children with the opportunity, means and support to pursue their goals. But, providing love, guidance, and encouragement in their efforts: ensuring the child has the materials needed, proper instruction, and transportation.

And you want your child to be independent and not contingent. It is the ground rules that you have for yourself on whether that happens and your commitment to being the parent your child needs.

Be courageous, be strong, be confident, be “that” parent who in 100 years will be remembered for what you did as the Grand Parent a long time ago.

Build a Sense of Achievement and Independence.

Win-Win Attitude for YOUR Child.