Assertive is the Best.

Most people are passive most of the time. Then in a minute, we can go over to the dark side being aggressive. Staying and making it stick should be in the middle – being assertive.

The most important area where we all have to be assertive – is about our SELF and YOUR children. Whether we are in a large family, at school, or at any event or by YOURself – anything that comes up in a moment’s time everyone should be able to stay within the “lines” and just stay calm and be assertive ONLY.

Means being direct about what you need, want, feel, or believe in a way that is respectful to you and others. It involves communication skill that can reduce conflict, build self-confidence and improve relationships among other things.

Here are some ideas that may help YOUR child to be more assertive – not passive and not aggressive.

1. Commit to being assertive

2. Respect others

3. Listen

4. Agree to disagree

5. Do not feel guilty

6. Stay calm

7. Be a problem solver

8. Practice

9. Be patient

You do know and realize that all things come in time. Being a good parent does not happen when YOUR child is born, being a responsible and confident child does not happen at once either.

Being assertive does have:

Boundaries

Know what assertive is

Love getting respect and praise for being assertive

Encourage to express feelings

Encourage extracurricular activities

Model assertiveness

Let YOUR child make decisions

Teach your child to manage emotions and handle disappointment

Teach your child to follow through

Power to YOUR child

Great for YOUR child when they can let friends know they do not want to do that today, and they want to go read in their room. Their privacy is being assertive is very important, and letting others know how they feel about something is also good.

Absolutely give YOUR child the Tools they need to be assertive and especially as they develop in elementary and middle school that they do not have to follow anyone to anywhere there may be problems or trouble.

Be that role model for YOUR child

Children tend to shy away from standing up for themselves because they want to fit in or be liked by someone else. Prepare YOUR child for the possibility that their playmate or friends may reject her, and explain that a friend who does not respect other people’s opinions is not worth having.

Does YOUR Child have their Toolbox?

Assertive is the Best.