Competition – “Good” and “Bad”.

The Red Team or the Blue Team

Competition is good – up to the point of where a person is destroyed for not being 1st in anything.

Many scholars agree that competition is necessary, ingrained and essential.  And studies have shown that under certain conditions, competition can improve performance and happiness.  Children are better off when they are trying to win rather than trying not to lose.   And when they are confident.  But achieving mastery in one thing is very good as we have seen athletics, scholarship, sewing, or anyone talent that each of us may have.

Competition – “Good” and “Bad”.

Children do have understand competition but they do understand the word “Win”.

Competition is an inescapable part of life.  American Culture is based on competition in all business and other interests.  One father of 5, a tennis player who has won the Davis Cup said that those greats he had played again realized the challenge of solving a difficult problem.  Winning or losing is simply a measure of whether or not they have solved the problem. But it makes sense to me that competition is really problem-solving in any area of life.

Encourage YOUR child for their effort and good work.  They will probably become competitive in their chosen field of interest.  And they will become self-motivated, self-disciplined and good at decision-making.

Listed below are 5 reasons why competition is a good thing for your child:

1.  Greatest setting for learning social skills and integration

2.  A  environment is perfect for developing YOUR child’s skills because it pushes them to always give your best.

3.  Competition fosters cooperation and to learn patterns of social cooperation without exceeding critical limits of aggression.

4.  Encourages children to reflect on their behavior under the emotionally intense situation and develop strong emotional intelligence.

5.  Urges children to challenges their status quo and tries new things, which improves their creativity and problem-solving skills.

It can focus on improving ourselves, beating our personal record, learning something new.

Healthy competition can

Motivates us to improve

Encourages teamwork

Builds a strong work ethic

Teaches the importance of preparation

Instills discipline

The person YOUR child most wants to emulate is YOU.  What he see and hear when he looks to you as a role model.  Talk about expectations – family’s values.

Sportsmanship is about respecting those who are on your team.  Help YOUR child be appreciative of the skills they have and that other’s have also, even on the other team.  Never belittle or have jealousy in YOUR tone.

But never criticize YOUR child or others on the team.  Do not make comparisons.

Coping Skills for YOUR Child.