Probability during the middle childhood years there will be parent-child conflict. The changes in parent-child relationship occur between late childhood and early adolescence are stagnated by the child’s growing desire to increase their sense of autonomy and independence, that is, the child becomes less satisfied with parent’s authority over their personal lives as they mature.
When seen only as presiding over a child’s growth, parenting can be frustrating burdensome. When seen as an OPPORTUNITY for personal growth for YOU, the parent, parenting is one of the most creative and affirming experiences that life offers. It can be a mutual growth process for both parents and children.
Below is a list that may help on this issue of parenting:
The responsibilities of parents to their children in exercising authority are essentially twofold.
The first is to recognize that from the time they are born, our children are individuals with valid needs and feelings.
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The second is to model effective living for our children, who are influenced by what we actually do more than by what we say.YOUR child needs love, limits, and belief system.
The following is from Ann Landers when she published the following:
Twelve Rules for Raising Children:
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Remember that each child is a gift from God
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Do not crush a child’s spirit when they fail
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Remember that anger and hostility are natural emotions
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Discipline your child with firmness and reason
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Avoid situations in which your child can manipulate one child against another
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do not give your child everything they desire
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And o not set yourself up as a model of perfection.
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Do not make unrealistic threats in anger or promises in a generous mood
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Do not smother your child with gifts and lavish surprises
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Teach your child that there is dignity in hard work
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Do not try to protect your child against every disappointment
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Teach your child to love God and to love other people
It is important to set limits for toddlers. Set clear limits and help toddlers realize that you mean what you say. Use your feet and hands rather than their voices.
Balancing Independence With Respect for Parental Authority
Make sure YOUR child knows “Right and Wrong” this helps to discern.
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Right revolves around:
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Truth
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Giving to others
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Honesty
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Positive thoughts
Wrong revolves around:
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Lying
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Negative thoughts
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Not sharing
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Stealing
A youngster needs to be:
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Strong
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Courageous
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Self-reliant
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Positive thinking
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Empowered
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Inspired
And always have hugs and many more hugs
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